Caffeinated Psychologist

Control your anger before it controls you  We might have felt angry and frustrated so many times in our lives and the way we reacted, might have had unpleasant consequences. Just like swearing on the road to the person driving next to us, responding in high tone to our loved ones when they express different ideas, when your workplace does not follow the schedule and you end up expressing the frustration on fellow colleagues, when you see someone being unjust to you so you ignore talking to them for days or when you yell at your partner for not listening to you at once.  All of these feelings are nothing but human. It's natural to feel angry, it's how you express that causes indifference. According to Albert Ellis, founder of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy; he mentions how anger can be healthy as well as unhealthy. It is natural for all humans to feel anger. Healthy anger can be helpful to survive and for self defense. It can be used as a means to stand against injustice be...

“Listening is as important as being heard”  Imagine, you go to your friend and tell them that you had an argument at home and you explain how it happened and what you felt and then you see them… scrolling on their phone throughout, not paying attention to what you are saying and passing a ‘hmm’ here and there and barely looking at you while you speak and then they just leave the conversation saying, ‘let it go’. And then, you go to another friend and they welcome you with a smile and then you both sit comfortably and they ask you, ‘is there something you want to share, you seem different’ and then you go ahead sharing with them all the things you told your friend previously. You see them nodding, keeping eye contact, keeping a neutral face, asking you if they heard you properly by repeating everything briefly, assuring you that whatever you shared will not be shared around like gossip and also making you understand that your feelings are valid. Which friend would you prefer to talk...

“We don’t realize the value of a moment until it becomes a memory” Moments of life seem so mundane until you finally find yourself searching for meaning in it. The little child holding dad’s finger and him saying “I am with you” while they walk on the lush greenery of gardens; the teenager putting his hand on his friends shoulder while they talk about homework given in the classes; the adults sitting with their friend while they share a beer and discuss the difficulties of adulting; when the sibling has cold and other sibling cooks soup for his sister; the old man tying a fragrant gajra in his beloved’s hair while they blush. Isn’t it beautiful how we have our own way of expressing our love but we all wish the same feeling to reach the human beside us. It may be just an action through which we express and show our support and care. As if, it's our own language between us, which is like our very own curated way to express the feelings which may never be accurately framed in words.  ...