This makes me angry


Control your anger before it controls you 


We might have felt angry and frustrated so many times in our lives and the way we reacted, might have had unpleasant consequences. Just like swearing on the road to the person driving next to us, responding in high tone to our loved ones when they express different ideas, when your workplace does not follow the schedule and you end up expressing the frustration on fellow colleagues, when you see someone being unjust to you so you ignore talking to them for days or when you yell at your partner for not listening to you at once. 


All of these feelings are nothing but human. It's natural to feel angry, it's how you express that causes indifference. According to Albert Ellis, founder of Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy; he mentions how anger can be healthy as well as unhealthy. It is natural for all humans to feel anger. Healthy anger can be helpful to survive and for self defense. It can be used as a means to stand against injustice being done, unexpressed hurt or out of frustration. When it comes to unhealthy anger, it can make you violent, end up leading to health related issues and even ruin your relationships. 


There can be times when you feel so angry you just want to hurt someone to stop feeling that anger but do you think that is helpful? But something can be very helpful. It is easier said than done but it is important to not directly act out on your anger but rather sit with it and try to understand where it can be coming from. Logic fails because anger (even when it is justifiable) can easily degenerate into irrationality. So examine yourself using logic and reasoning. Remind yourself that the world is "not out to get you," and that you are merely going through some of the difficult times that come with daily living. Every time you feel your wrath getting the better of you, do this to help yourself gain a more objective viewpoint. People who are angry frequently make demands, such as fairness, appreciation, cooperation, and a readiness to do things their way. People who are angry expect these things, and when their demands aren't met, their disappointment turns to fury. Everyone wants these things, and we can all be wounded and disappointed when we don't get them. The more it bottles up, the more difficult it can get to cope.







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