Acts of Love

“We don’t realize the value of a moment until it becomes a memory”


Moments of life seem so mundane until you finally find yourself searching for meaning in it. The little child holding dad’s finger and him saying “I am with you” while they walk on the lush greenery of gardens; the teenager putting his hand on his friends shoulder while they talk about homework given in the classes; the adults sitting with their friend while they share a beer and discuss the difficulties of adulting; when the sibling has cold and other sibling cooks soup for his sister; the old man tying a fragrant gajra in his beloved’s hair while they blush. Isn’t it beautiful how we have our own way of expressing our love but we all wish the same feeling to reach the human beside us. It may be just an action through which we express and show our support and care. As if, it's our own language between us, which is like our very own curated way to express the feelings which may never be accurately framed in words. 

    These aren’t just moments but our “love language” which may differ among all of us but might be put into certain categories for better understanding and identifying where we may stand. According to Gary Chapman, a renowned author, who in his book "The 5 Love Languages" published in 1992, explained the following love languages:

Words of Affirmation

The concept of "words of affirmation" refers to the verbal expression of love, adulation, or praise. When this is a person's dominant love language, they value positive affirmations, inspiring phrases, romantic notes, and adorable messages. By giving them praise or highlighting their strengths, you can brighten their day.

Physical Touch

A person who uses physical contact as their preferred form of communication experiences love through physical adoration. In addition to having sex, they feel loved when their spouse gives them a massage at night or holds their hand.

Quality Time

This type of person craves undivided attention. If you are attentive and focused on them when you are together, they will feel cherished. This entails putting the phone down, shutting down the computer, making eye contact, and paying attention.

Acts of Service

The kind things you do for your partner to make them feel loved and valued are called acts of service. Your lover will notice and appreciate the tiny things you do for them if their preferred love language is acts of service. They frequently help others and show generosity to them.

Receiving Gifts

Giving gifts conveys love and affection to someone who uses and responds to this love language. They value the time and effort the present-giver invested in it as well as the gift itself. They will know you really know them if you take the effort to choose a gift just for them. Because it has such an impact on them, people who use this love language frequently remember every tiny present they have gotten from their loved ones.

    As you might have read above, these could be certain acts of expressing which may not always be seen just in couples but in other relationships as well. This may or may not resonate with you but it can help with better understanding of love in your relationships. Some may even prefer being verbal about their feelings and some may express it in their actions and some may never express it at all. But love resides in us, all along our lives and it may arise in different ways at different moments with different people.



NOTE - The above theory is a part of a book and it should not be considered a psychological theory as it has no research backing to it.


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