Do you remember?

"Nostalgia is not where you live in"

It was a cold windy day, you came back from school and kept your bag aside, barely freshened up and sat in your drawing room with tv on and warm, fulfilling lunch and after finishing your lunch you went to play and played around with all of your friends. Then came back running in the evening because your parents were calling to have the evening chai and toast and tell you about the day and then straight you went to your room and sat to do your homework. Then dinner time, again a warm meal with KBC on the TV or any other classic Bollywood movie. 

There was a time when winters were about warmth in blankets, fulfilling meals, good times with family and going around the town with friends for random walks. It is indeed the time of nostalgia, remembering old days and longing and feeling lots of emotions. Nostalgia can be a mix of emotions. It can be a way to cope with loneliness or social isolation. However, if it becomes unhealthy, it can lead to depression. It can feel positive or even negative at times but the memories always come back to us. Well, you can enjoy it or dread it. But you can also do something more to help you deal with the emotions better. Here are some strategies to cope with nostalgia: 

Reach out to others: Connect with people from your past and present life.

Build relationships: This can reduce your risk of depression.

Keep things in perspective: Don't think you'll never feel close to anyone again.

Use your nostalgic feelings in a different way: Try to recreate happy moments in the present and future.

If you can't deal with nostalgia on your own, you can seek professional help. 

It is important to keep in mind that these feelings vary from person to person and it can be felt in different intensity for everyone. It can be healthy if it is not harming your lifestyle or leading to disturbance in daily life activities. It feels comforting to go back to old times and remember those moments by relieving them and feeling those emotions, but if it is becoming a part of the present, it's time to seek support. And also connect to people who can help you out. 


 


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