Don't get too close!

“You only lose what you cling to.”
 

Oh, I can't even remember the amount of times I have heard this line. People are so afraid to get close to someone just because they don't know where the relationship will go or even if it will go anywhere. It can be scary, often to get close but that does not mean you will not give yourself a chance. So what do you do if you don't get scared or not get attached or even get too attached to fear of never being able to live without them? Well you are at the right place to understand how to go about it. 

First you need to understand what kind of attachment you have and then you try to work on how to manage it. Now it's not a problem as long as it is not causing you any harm but it does become a problem if you do not know yourself enough or how to get out of it. Once you get to know yourself well  it really becomes easier to manage. Then you understand, what leads to long lasting attachment or even attachment which might make you get too close too soon. But at the end of the day, it is you who has to live with it. And how do you deal with it? Here are some ways:

  • Learn to be accepting towards yourself and be compassionate towards your own self so you do not find it outside. 

  • You learn to understand how much time you give to them and how much of it might make it more unhelpful.

  • You understand your patterns and habits and work on improving them.

  • You work on becoming mindful of how much time you spend thinking about them or even being with them

  • Then you make healthy boundaries which do not just affect your or their mood but also give you a good and quality time to spend with them which does not make your mind wander. 

This is easier said than done but this is one of the ways to break habits and get into making secure relationships. This gives you a chance to give yourself more time and stability along with healthy relationships with others, without you losing yourself.





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