Knowing when to stop

 

“You keep forgiving someone until you stop loving them” 


There are times in our lives when we do not know when we should stop being helpful, being supportive or even tolerating anything that is being sent to us. We face a lot of things in our lives. More often than we would like to admit; just because we want to be with someone or we fear losing something super close to us. But till what time will you tolerate something which is hurting you? At some point in life you need to stop or even draw boundaries. It is important to be stern with your ideas or people will take advantage of you. 


Here are some ways which can help you to be assertive: 

  • Consider what you want to say and how you'll say it. 

  • Show that you respect yourself and others by standing up for your interests and working to resolve conflicts. 

  • These can help you communicate your needs in a way that's easier to ask for. 

  • It can take time to get used to being assertive, so don't be discouraged if your first attempts don't go as smoothly as you'd like. 

  • If you come on too strong, you can apologize and explain that you're still learning. 

  • Assertiveness is different from being aggressive or passive:

  • Using verbal or physical threats to get what you want can damage relationships.

  • Ignoring your own needs and feelings to avoid arguments can also damage relationships

 
It is of absolute importance to remember that these things take time for you to learn and also for others to come in terms with. It can lead to guilt but you need to keep reminding yourself that your time and efforts are of absolute importance just like the other persons’ need for help. And you matter, so the other person needs to remember it too. You should be valued.



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