Everything is changing so fast

 “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new”

It is so frustrating to see everything turning into something entirely different than you thought of it to be. I know it is normal that things change but why is it necessary? It takes a lot of courage and time to accept that things have changed and come to terms with it and then suddenly it happens that you have to outgrow that feeling as well. We should try to understand why it is necessary and at the same time how we can accept it. But how? It is easier said than done to accept. So what do we do? 

Well, we first learn to mourn or grieve or even feel sad about the things that existed and have been a very important part of life. 

  • It is a part of life for people and things to come and go so we need to acknowledge it. Then comes the part where we try to understand how to go about the new change in our lives. 

  • We find out what exactly is happening and why it is required. Maybe , it is a new beginning for our life or a chance to grow differently or even something that might take us where we wish to be. 

  • And then comes the important part, accepting the change. Whoosh, sounds like such a relief. 

It does come with a strange feeling but it comes with the excitement of something new. When the grief for losing something was valid then why do we not feel the excitement of something new as well? It will be scary to change since we are so habituated to old things but it will be unfair to us to be stuck somewhere we do not wish to be and thus, we give ourselves a chance. This change is not just for us but also for our growth. Hoping you get the strength to accept it. 




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