Jaate nahi kahi rishte purane, kisi naye ke aa jane se



"Rishte naye ho ya purane, haq jatane se nahi rehte, nibhane se bante hai" 


Itna aasaan hai ye bolna, ki jaane do, ab naye raste chal rahe hai hum, puraane logon ko kyu rakhna. Par vo nahi hote toh shayad hum yaha tak nahi aa paate. Humein aadat hai, logo kp bhul jaane dene ki, aasan hai. Ab nayi jagah jayege toh naye log milenge aur nayi dosti hogi toh jayaz hai, ki hamare dhyaan se nikal jaaye. Par kya vo yaadein, vo log, vo rishte kabhi maayine nahi rakhte the? Zarur the, isiliye ye padhte waqt vo yaad aa gaye aur vo saare bitaye pal mann mein chale jaa rahe hai. Par sabse acchi baat pata hai kya hai? Vo rishte bhale hi khatam ho gaye ho, vo insaan ab bhi kahi na kahi juda hai. Aur hum kabhi na kabhi wapas mulaqat kar sakte hai ya sirf baat bhi kaafi hai. Ek cheez ka dhyan rakhna zaroori hai ki sab rishte vapas milne layak nahi hote, kuch rishtey jinse humein takleef hui hai vo sirf yaadon tak rakh kar chod dena chahiye. 


Ab aate hai inn naye rishton par. Ye abhi bas banne shuru hui hai aur aapke apne se lagne lage hai, Shayad yahi inki khaas baat hai. Kuch rishton ko samay nahi lagta hai bas saath lagta hai. Aur inn sab mein humein yeh yaad rakhne ki zarurat hai ki sabr bhi utna hi zaruri hai inn rishton ko ahem banane ke liye. Kisi bhi cheez ki jaldi karne ki zarurat nahi hai, agar vo aapke saath rehna chahte hai toh door rehke bhi saath rahege aur nahi rehna chahte toh pass hoke bhi aapke nahi rahenge. Aur ye unki baaton se ya adhooray wadon se nahi samajh aayega, ye unki harkaton se pata chal payega. 


Ye saari baatein bolne mein aur asal zindagi mein samajhne mein mushkil de sakti hai par yahi aapko samajhna hai ki kon aapke saath rehne ki kitni koshish kar rahe hai aur kon bas baaton mein uljha raha hai. Kyuki bolna aasan hai par nibhana mushkil hai. Aur rishte naye ho ya puraane, unki ahmiyat mushkil samay mein hi samajh aati hai.







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