I can’t lose you

 

“What is grief, if not love persevering”


As the year is nearing its end, there must be so many questions around and so many memories flashing everyday, of the entire year. So much happened and so less time to react to any of it. Now all of it must be settling. But today, let us talk about the things you lost or even people. It can be anyone, someone as simple as a colleague you just met five months ago and he moved away for his better career or even someone as close as your pet. It all happened so fast that you barely might have had the time to feel any of it and you just went with the flow of life. And now just a sad song or even a familiar scent immediately reminds you of them.


It may not sound like that big of a deal to lose someone but if it is hurting you, it is a big deal. Your feelings are valid. And you are allowed to feel every ounce of the loss you are feeling. It is a privilege to feel so much hurt, it only shows how important the person was to you. And it's even better to remember the memories you had with them as it lessens the grief and makes you cherish everything you had with them. It was so special and dear to you, a part of your routine, the reason for your laughs, your irrelevant jokes, your moments of annoyance with each other, your fights or even moments of affection. All of it was so precious, hence losing it feels like a huge part of you getting empty. There is this longing that they will come back and it will be the same again, but I am so sorry to tell you, it won’t be. It is gone for good or even better for that individual. They are at a better place. It was not in your control anyway, them being a part of your life or leaving. But it was indeed a cherishable journey and will be remembered for life. 


It is important to remember them in your good days and wish them the best. And it is so important to remember all the love you had and turn it into nothing but good wishes for them. I hope you feel at ease knowing better days lie ahead and it is going to be whole again.



 


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