Caffeinated Psychologist

“We do not remember days, we remember moments” This one is rather personal. I am about to leave my job, the job of an assistant professor and psychological counselor at a renowned institution. I honestly haven’t had the feeling of leaving the place. I mean, if it is our own decision to leave and we get good enough time to prepare, then why would I feel a sense of grief? Yes, I do know I will miss the place, the people, the experiences and cherish the memories forever.  I will miss my first day of interview, where I was told to teach a group of experienced teachers, then I got the experience of my first lecture with 60+ students, my first lunch with all faculty members and me being super shy and the youngest, my interaction with seniors and working for longer hours in the first month itself. I remember my first salary cheque and sharing the joy with everyone like a kid, exam duty with utter confusion and then, a sudden announcement of a break from the place for a month.  And w...

“Gratitude turns what we have into enough.” I cannot exaggerate this enough, the importance of being thankful to whatever is happening around you. I know, it happens often that things get so tough that you can barely think straight, let alone think of being grateful for things around you. But just once, try to remember all things that have happened to you till now and made you feel so much better about life.  It can be something as simple as the ability to be all fine in health and not having a blocked nose in such cold weather or even the fact that you have the ability to speak clearly, listen to amazing music and have food on your table. Sounds like extremely simple things but it brings such a big difference in your life. The fact that no matter how many things go wrong, there are many things that do go right. I am not saying that you should be in denial about the things happening around you which are not according to you b ut rather remember how this was a feeling earlier as wel...

“You cannot change someone by loving them harder” I am so sorry if this question ever came to you. It was never about how you are rather how the other person is not capable enough to understand your importance in their life. It might have been a feeling in your mind that you may not be as important as you considered yourself to be. It could have been developed due to distance, mixed signals, continuous mismatch of actions or words or even incapability to reciprocate. Now this does not have anything to do with your value because humans cannot be calculated in their worth or value. It is not even a parameter. It is the other person’s perception of how much effort they wish to take for you. I do understand that you might have done everything in your capacity for that person and given your best, irrespective of what you might be going through. But unfortunately, it is not relevant to the other person if they do not wish to accept or even acknowledge it. It is not about how much you give bu...

“Two steps forward and one step back is still one step forward”   It is here. The new year we have all been eagerly waiting for and also planning into. There might have been so many realizations and new goals list coming up. The new year resolutions and the trending vision board. It is like having a blank slate for yourself, you can write, draw, paint, sketch or even stick pictures of how you wish to be in the upcoming year. It does seem fascinating to imagine a year and plan for what can be done. But what seems even more exciting is doing every damn thing in the starting of the year itself.  You might have already settled into the gym membership mood or started the skincare or even started planning your days. It all feels so rushing, like adrenaline pumping through the veins with all the newness and getting things done. But do you know why it all seems tiring after a point of time? Well, that secret will stay with me for a while, but until then, let me tell you something even...