I am not that important to them



“You cannot change someone by loving them harder”


I am so sorry if this question ever came to you. It was never about how you are rather how the other person is not capable enough to understand your importance in their life. It might have been a feeling in your mind that you may not be as important as you considered yourself to be. It could have been developed due to distance, mixed signals, continuous mismatch of actions or words or even incapability to reciprocate. Now this does not have anything to do with your value because humans cannot be calculated in their worth or value. It is not even a parameter. It is the other person’s perception of how much effort they wish to take for you.


I do understand that you might have done everything in your capacity for that person and given your best, irrespective of what you might be going through. But unfortunately, it is not relevant to the other person if they do not wish to accept or even acknowledge it. It is not about how much you give but rather how much the person is ready to accept and reciprocate. And sometimes, we give so much that we forget, we want to be given too. And we empty our cups to fill theirs. 


It does take a fair share of time to leave such a situation or even give it a break but it is necessary for your mental well being. As confusions will lead to more such assumptions and overthinking. Once it becomes easier in your head and makes sense enough to communicate about it, give it some time. After all, it's just thoughts, it can be changed and worked upon.

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