It’s complicated

“Life’s contradictions are the echoes of our inner conflicts.”

Oh, the very common phrase used is most relationships. It is like the salt in relationships in the present day scenario. You are unsure of where you stand or even about the feelings you may or may not have for the other person. You start to doubt every aspect of your relationship. Even though you have been spending quality time or talking or even getting intimate. You have trust, respect, care, affection for each other but still seems confusing when it comes to feelings. Is it liking or attachment or love for real? And whenever you think of describing it, the one word that comes to you is complicated. 

Well, let me bring light onto this by telling you, it is absolutely normal to have such phases in your relationships and even normal to feel out of place sometimes. But it is unhealthy to not deal with these feelings. So how do you actually understand this or bring some clarity of thoughts? Well, let me tell you a simple thing to do:

  • Acknowledge that there is some complications

  • Accept that it exists

  • Understand yourself first, what are these thoughts and why do they exist and where are the coming from

  • If it seems to bother you a lot, discuss it with your partner in a calm and polite manner

  • And if you can’t seem to get a conclusion, take some time off to process those emotions


It may happen that instead of discussing things with your partner, you prefer talking to other people about this, which might make things worse in your relationship because it is a strain in your relationship with the other person and not a topic of group discussion. As soon as it gets cleared in your head on your own, it will be clear between you and your partner. And it will even build healthy communication patterns between the two of you. And can lead to more clarity as to where you both stand in each other's life. Please keep in mind, the tough conversation can make you feel scared but after having the conversation, you will actually feel light. And what better than clarity and a healthy relationship. 





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