Caffeinated Psychologist

  "Each new day is a blank page in the diary of your life."      It feels so different to be in a new space. It is like experiencing life all over again. You know, as they say, entering the new season of a show; where the characters have already been there but new for you. And it does feel fun but it feels not for you, as of now. Then when you finally start to make peace with it or even make it familiar, it all changes. And then you come back, to the place you were all along.       Yes, I am talking about vacations. I had a great time but somewhere I did feel indifferent for a while but then at ease. And eventually, it was comforting, I could be myself, enjoy the time and then what? It was time to leave. And when I came back, it did feel different because I was a different person now. I took a break, changed my schedule to absolute laziness and also made myself more laidback. And the somehow non-existent intense pain I felt, grew more as if I need...

  “Gusse mein kuch samay ki doori, zindagi bhar ke rishte ki doori ko bacha sakti hai” Ye gussa, bada kharab hai, hum na jane kya kuch nahi bol dete hai ya kya kuch kar baithte hai, anjaane mein, kyuki hoshbkaha hota hai. Kayi baar hum yahi bolte hai, ki maine jo kaha gusse mein kaha, haath uth gaya kyuki gussa aa raha tha ya fir mere haath mein tha vo isiliye gusse mein tum par fek diya. Kitna aasaan hai na, takleef pohochkar gusse par naam de dena.  Kabhi socha hai, vo gusse mein kahi hui cheez, kitni takleef deti hogi saamne wale insaan ko, unke jazbaaton ko kitni thes pohochti hogi. Vo gusse mein jo haath uth gaya tha, uske ghav pe marham lagake hata diya par vo gusse wali aankhein, uske dard par kaise marham. Jo dikha, vo utha kar fek diya aur chot kuch samay mein chali gayi, par uska ghav jo dil mein reh gaya, uska kya? Zindagi bhar na jaane wale ghav ko kaha se theek karege? Gussa toh kuch samay ka hota hai na toh zakhm zindagi bhar ka kyu? Aur pata hai, baadme maafi ma...

“Actions speak louder than words” The promises that we make to people are never ending. We will be there for each other; we are in love, nothing can change it or even no power can separate us. Yes, very valid and so supportive but are these only words or shown in action too? That is where the real question lies. We do show our support through words and say so many things but how much we actually work on it, that makes a difference. And you know, it gets disappointing to only hear words and not see it in action because why would you say it if you cannot do it! The way out in this is very simple, say what can be done by you. Do not make promises out of your capacity. It is okay to be there without saying it, it is okay to not buy the fanciest thing when you know the last thing you can do is pluck a flower and it is absolutely fine to not go out of the way to get things done when it is not leading to happiness for either of you. All the things you say should be in love and with genuinenes...