Mujhe bohot gussa aa raha hai

 

“Gusse mein kuch samay ki doori, zindagi bhar ke rishte ki doori ko bacha sakti hai”


Ye gussa, bada kharab hai, hum na jane kya kuch nahi bol dete hai ya kya kuch kar baithte hai, anjaane mein, kyuki hoshbkaha hota hai. Kayi baar hum yahi bolte hai, ki maine jo kaha gusse mein kaha, haath uth gaya kyuki gussa aa raha tha ya fir mere haath mein tha vo isiliye gusse mein tum par fek diya. Kitna aasaan hai na, takleef pohochkar gusse par naam de dena. 


Kabhi socha hai, vo gusse mein kahi hui cheez, kitni takleef deti hogi saamne wale insaan ko, unke jazbaaton ko kitni thes pohochti hogi. Vo gusse mein jo haath uth gaya tha, uske ghav pe marham lagake hata diya par vo gusse wali aankhein, uske dard par kaise marham. Jo dikha, vo utha kar fek diya aur chot kuch samay mein chali gayi, par uska ghav jo dil mein reh gaya, uska kya? Zindagi bhar na jaane wale ghav ko kaha se theek karege? Gussa toh kuch samay ka hota hai na toh zakhm zindagi bhar ka kyu?


Aur pata hai, baadme maafi maangne se shayad behtar ho bhi jaye rishta, kar dege maaf par kya takleef kam hogi? Dono mein jo man mutav aagaya hai, vo jaa paega? Shayad, iss par hum pehle se hi theraav laa le, apno gusse ko sambhalna seekh le toh kitne rishte bach jaaye. Jab humein pata hai, gussa sambhal nahi paata toh uss time shaanti se door chale jaana chahiye na uss mahol se, ya fir samay maang lo apne aap ko sambhaalne ka aur ye bhi na ho, toh apne gusse ko samay dekar samajhne ki koshish karo, ki kahi iss gusse ke peeche dukh toh nahi. Kayi baar humein itni takleef hoti hai kisi baat se ki hum usse gusse mein bayaan karne ki koshish karte hai. Toh kyu na uss takleef ko jaise hai, vaise hi samay rehte shaanti se bata de. Aur agar har baar hum apne gussa tabhi shaant kar kar aage badhne na de, aur do lambi saansein lekar khud ko yaad dila de toh hamare dimaag ko shaanti se rehne ki aadat bhi ho jaegi aur hum khud gusse ki takleef se bhi bache rahege. 






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