You just have to be yourself

 


"Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom."


Oh, this one is easy, you just have to be yourself. I don’t think I need to tell you any better in this. You can absolutely laugh out loud in public without getting conscious or even just wear whatever pleases you and be comfortable in it, because you do you. Colour your hair, do that piercing, get that damn dress and please wear the make up you’ve been meaning to put on since a while. Who’s stopping you? Huh? Who is it?


I am so sorry, if that leads to you remembering someone in your life. I know, being yourself comes with a prize of being insulted. And sometimes, you start to feel it is valid but it is not and will never be. So how to be yourself without being everything else based on society’s ideas? Well, it is simple. Learn to be yourself in your thoughts. Yes, I will not deny there are certain places where you are supposed to behave appropriately which is understandable based on the place you are at but you do not have to dull yourself down at any point. You just have to be comfortable in your skin which takes lots of acknowledgement of your flaws and amazing qualities and acceptance for the same. Then, you can understand if the place will be able to handle the amazingness you have, sometimes, it just can’t so you stay lowkey and just be, which is fine too. 


So, you know the space for your comfort and you be you. At other places, give some space to yourself in the situation and try to be more present there. It is okay to change yourself in spaces you don’t feel comfortable, as long as you don’t change your whole self. It’s human to adjust but not fair to compromise. 





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