Caffeinated Psychologist

"Lack of boundaries invites lack of respect"        We might have been a part of a situation where we wanted to say no but ended up saying yes instead? Like the time when your friend called you up at night to rant about their break up and you had a hectic day but you went ahead anyway because you couldn't say no. Or the time when your mom asked for help and you could barely get up from the bed but ended up helping her anyway because you were the only one present. Or the time when your sibling asked to join you for shopping and you said yes even though you haven't slept since long and have been running on coffee. Or when a friend ghosted you and comes back normal after months or years.       There are incidents where we go ahead with the situation against our own will, just because we could not say no. It is important to understand that your preference and choice is as important as the other. This is the place where boundaries come into picture. An...

“You wouldn’t worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.”      Imagine… you go out with your friends to meet and then suddenly, you feel everyone is looking at the way you sit, stand, eat, drink or even talk. You feel like there are a lot of people and you need some space from them all. You feel the urge to go back and be on your own rather than with people. You start to stutter while ordering your food and you suddenly feel your heartbeat getting faster even when someone tries to approach you. Some of these feelings might have been familiar, right? Ever wondered why? Well, social anxiety symptoms are as simple and as complicated as this.       According to certain therapy types, various methods seem helpful under the supervision of a mental health professional in a guided environment. It is very helpful to have exposure techniques, where a hierarchy is formed from the least fearful situation to the highest and it ...

“You may delay, but time will not” I can’t even remember the amount of times I have said this in the past two weeks and delayed this blog. We do this often, I will do the assignment later, I will submit the file later, I will clean the room later, I will exercise later and so on and so forth. It would have been more helpful if we did the actual work instead of putting time to say that we will do it later. But, easier said than done. We could decide how to work on this but we will discuss it later maybe. In fact, no. Just give your five minutes to read this and maybe it might help you save the last moment hustle or even save your time by finishing earlier and get the things done in a better way. Here are few exercises that can help you reduce procrastination: - Make a to-do list - Consider including a due date next to each item to help you stay on track. - Take it slow - To make your chores seem less onerous, divide the items on your list into tiny, doable steps. - Determine the caut...