Caffeinated Psychologist

 "True self-care is not bath salts and chocolate cake, it's making the choice to build a life you don't need to escape from." Well, as much as I feel sad saying this, it is a very commonly spoken statement. And let me tell you, it has never helped anyone be better but rather makes you feel more low about yourself. And no, depreciating yourself as a form of motivation does not work, it makes a pattern in your head which is super unhelpful. No, it is not okay to eat unhealthy for days thinking its a form of self love, it is not okay to feed negative thoughts to your mind, it is not okay to drink too much and feel the pain is subsiding, it is not okay to drown in sad thoughts either calling it a part of life and it is not even slightly okay to have anger fits and then sit in guilt.  I am not saying it does not happen, all I am saying is that it is not helping you love or even accept yourself and just making things more unhealthy for you. But if you just do it for yoursel...

  “After a good dinner one can forgive anybody, even one's own relations.” Do you still have the faint memory of eating the raw mango during summer holidays? The spicy masala with the absolute sour slices. Oh, you felt so alive. And then the cold beverages of summer, the comforting meals made my mom and of course, the ice cream with cousins at the end of the day. All these memories are so connected with one absolute need of ours, that is food. It is so strange that a need can be so relevant and fulfilling in our lives, but only when served right. We do have these foods occasionally as well, but do you not think it's the experience that counts. The people you have it with, the way it is given to you or even the surrounding you are having it with.  I mean, maggi is such a commonly consumed food around, the same in a hostel alone is so different than making it with tons of memories with your friends. It does make a difference if you eat the food with your loved one’s, you might f...

“Life’s contradictions are the echoes of our inner conflicts.” Oh, the very common phrase used is most relationships. It is like the salt in relationships in the present day scenario. You are unsure of where you stand or even about the feelings you may or may not have for the other person. You start to doubt every aspect of your relationship. Even though you have been spending quality time or talking or even getting intimate. You have trust, respect, care, affection for each other but still seems confusing when it comes to feelings. Is it liking or attachment or love for real? And whenever you think of describing it, the one word that comes to you is complicated.  Well, let me bring light onto this by telling you, it is absolutely normal to have such phases in your relationships and even normal to feel out of place sometimes. But it is unhealthy to not deal with these feelings. So how do you actually understand this or bring some clarity of thoughts? Well, let me tell you a simple ...

  “Comparison is the root cause of all evil” A question that might have popped in your head sometimes. And it is only valid, as we are constantly surrounded by people around us in the same domain and sphere, so these thoughts might take a chance to pop and it will make a trail of something more leading to you questioning your worth in various ways. Let’s say when someone scores better than you in an exam even after you put in so much effort, when someone gets the person you wanted to be with all along or when someone gets the job you know you are more skilled for and so on. These incidents are about celebrating the success of others but rather becomes a mode of comparison for you, which might lead to further questioning of your self esteem.  You know, what can actually help here? It is going back in the memory lane and seeing how far you have come here. A person who once dreamt of even being this far or even reaching to the thought of you being skilled enough. There was a time...