Caffeinated Psychologist

 "When you are reacting, they are in control. When you respond, you are."   “I just yelled at my family because I disagreed with what they were saying to me. I am so frustrated and they don’t even listen.” Seems like a familiar sentence, doesn't it? Let’s just break it and understand. ‘I yelled’ i.e. a reaction; ‘because I disagree’ i.e. an opinion; ‘frustrated’ i.e. an emotional response; and ‘they don't listen’ is a thought. Here, we can understand that due to improper communication of a thought the emotional response leads to an unhelpful reaction in the situation. Many times this happens to the best of us. We get angry and we end up reacting in the situation; the reason could be anything - pent up frustration, feeling exhausted, irritability and so on. But what to do exactly if the reaction is not helpful? Well, it's easy. You learn to respond instead of react.   A reaction is often instinctive, emotional, and impulsive. It can be influenced by past experience...

“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall.” It must have felt like the toughest thing to go through that moment in life, as if you just can’t take it anymore and you don’t think you can bear it anymore and here you are, reading this. Aren’t you proud of yourself? You went through it all, the bullying, the heartbreak, the failures, the loss and successfully came out of all those periods of life. You wonder what that makes you? A superhuman, of course. But it also shows how resilient you are as an individual. And that is what we will understand more and also find out, how can we be not just strong but also try to be calm in such tough situations.  Resilience means having the capacity to bounce back from significant setbacks. It can assist you in recovering from adjustments, difficulties, failures, setbacks, and disappointments.  Here are some strategies to for building resilience: - Make connections - Avoid seeing crises as insurmountable prob...

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation" There are times when we just sit and watch our comfort shows like Brooklyn Nine Nine or Modern Family or even Taarak Mehta ka Ooltah Chashma. On some days we just prefer to watch the most heartwarming movies like Tangled, Harry Potter or even Marvel movies. It feels so relaxing to have a go-to movie or show or even music for that matter that makes us feel good, no matter what goes around us. We know that there is something calming to go back to and no matter how tough things go out here, something will surely enhance the mood.  Experts claim that watching comfort TV can improve your mental health. You can take care of your mental health and establish equilibrium with the aid of comfort shows. Additionally, they may enhance emotional health. Comfort shows are a fantastic way to take care of yourself and de-stress. They can also assist you in recharging your brain, which can enhance your mood and increase your capac...

“The world seems to be in high-definition, with every detail heightened and intensified.”   There might have been a time where you felt that everything is so loud and it's all so irritating, there's this sound of fan then the kitchen utensils and then the traffic sound and then some music and then to add to it someone is calling you and then your thoughts and then BOOM. You feel like your head will burst but it doesn’t because it cannot biologically. But it does feel like everything around is too much and it needs to stop?  So here is an understanding of what exactly is this overstimulation. Sensory overload occurs when your brain receives more information than it can process from your five senses. This can happen when one or more of your senses are overwhelmed. It is very helpful to understand where exactly is this coming from or the triggers of sensory overload, here are few which could be causing it: - loud music or sounds - packed areas - intensely emotional individuals or...