Caffeinated Psychologist

  “You keep forgiving someone until you stop loving them”  There are times in our lives when we do not know when we should stop being helpful, being supportive or even tolerating anything that is being sent to us. We face a lot of things in our lives. More often than we would like to admit; just because we want to be with someone or we fear losing something super close to us. But till what time will you tolerate something which is hurting you? At some point in life you need to stop or even draw boundaries. It is important to be stern with your ideas or people will take advantage of you.  Here are some ways which can help you to be assertive:  Consider what you want to say and how you'll say it.  Show that you respect yourself and others by standing up for your interests and working to resolve conflicts.  These can help you communicate your needs in a way that's easier to ask for.  It can take time to get used to being assertive, so don't be discouraged...

  "When people cared about each other, they always found a way to make it work" A sentence you might have heard often from your loved one’s, but never quite understood. I mean, what does even care mean to people? How do you understand if the way you care is the same as how the other person perceives it? But guess what, that is what needs to be understood. You just need to understand first, what does caring mean and then understand how you express it to your people. It can save a lot of relationships if you try to understand what it means to care and how it can make a difference in relationships.  First, you need to understand what caring means. It means to feel the need to make an effort for someone because they mean that much to you. You might even go out of your way to do something which might make the person feel they are cared for and they do have an importance in your life. They should know that their existence in your life makes a difference. Now, let us try to understa...

“The emotion that can break your heart is sometimes the very one that heals it...”      Since when did being sad become a bad thing? It is so human to have feelings and express them, then when did we come up with the idea of it being bad? Let me tell you something super interesting, humans are born to feel and it is natural to have emotions and it is even helpful to express it! WOAHHH, who would have thought right? But it is true. It is so fortunate that we have the ability to understand, acknowledge and even express emotions. Sometimes, we feel a lot of nothing at all but this one is for the ones who tend to feel a “lot” as per others but there does not seem to be a way to have it in limit.       It is not that having feelings are wrong or being sensitive is right, it is just that there can only be certain people we feel safe to express feelings with or even certain places or situations where it is helpful to express it. So, if you tend to develop str...