Caffeinated Psychologist

  “Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.” It is such a lovely time. There is so much comfort and warmth around us. The skies is in beautiful hues of red, yellow and pink and the food is wholesome and fulfilling while the people are all bright and blushing. It is nearing the end of the year and we are here, remembering everything we did and did not do this year. No matter what happened and how it happened, we made it through all of it. And you know the best part? Despite all of it, there is still hope, that tiny flicker of light inside you, waiting to be seen and heard. And it is indeed a sense of strength that you are here.  I can imagine, you must be recalling how you started this year and how you have reached here. The goals, the ambitions, the lessons, the madness, the emotions, the workout routines, the diet, the education, the projects and of course, love. All of it comes like a strong wave, since it is also the season of being with your pe...

  “Some days I don't want to heal. I just want someone to see the mess and stay anyway.” Since it is the winter season, I would specifically like to talk about wool. You must have seen those wool balls which are well kept and all set to be used immediately, so that the process gets easier. But when it gets messy, mixed and entangled with each other, it is so irritating to work with it, you can barely make sense and it gets on your nerves. It is so much work to sort it out and so much effort to make it get back to normal. It is one tiring process. But it is needed for you to make your work easier. Unfortunately, it may break at times due to too much pressure but then you fix it whenever possible.  Your thoughts pretty much work the same. They are all set and ready to work but at times, it may get too confusing, irritating or even turn into an absolute mess. So what do you do? Do you let it stay like that or do you let it take a toll on you or you manage to sort it? Well, usuall...

"zindagi yoon hui basar tanha, qaafila saath aur safar tanha" Kitna kuch ho jata hai na, kitne kam samay mein, humein pata hi nai chalta ki zindagi kaha se kaha pohoch gyi. Bas kuch dinon pehle hi hum kisi k jaane ka dukh mana rahe the aur aaj kisi ke saath ki khushi. Ya phir, iss akelepan ka sukoon. Itni aasaan nahi hai, zindagi jab takleefein hoti hai par achanak aisa lagne lagta hai ki itnu buri bhi nai hai. Aisa nahi hai ki kuch jaadui ho jaata hai pa itna zarur hai ki jab itna sab hone k baad bhi kuch log saath ho toh lagta hai ki sab kuch theek hai, bhale hi kuch samay ke liye par hai.  Hamari dil ki dhadkano ki tarah ye bhi upar neeche chal rahi hoti hai, aakhir vo hi zinda rakhti hai. Par ek cheez gaur karne wali hai ki kuch bhi ho raha ho, humein khud pe bharosa rakhna chahiye. Aisa toh hai nahi ki hum mushkil ka saamna nahi kar paege, ha, takleef hogi par hum sambhal lege aur aage bhi badh jaege. Shayad kuch peeche reh jaaye. Par jo reh gaya, vo apna kabhi tha hi na...

  "Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom." Oh, this one is easy, you just have to be yourself. I don’t think I need to tell you any better in this. You can absolutely laugh out loud in public without getting conscious or even just wear whatever pleases you and be comfortable in it, because you do you. Colour your hair, do that piercing, get that damn dress and please wear the make up you’ve been meaning to put on since a while. Who’s stopping you? Huh? Who is it? I am so sorry, if that leads to you remembering someone in your life. I know, being yourself comes with a prize of being insulted. And sometimes, you start to feel it is valid but it is not and will never be. So how to be yourself without being everything else based on society’s ideas? Well, it is simple. Learn to be yourself in your thoughts. Yes, I will not deny there are certain places where you are supposed to behave appropriately which is understandable based on the place you are at but you do not have...

  “Thoda Sukoon Bhi Dhoondiye Janaab, Yeh Zarooratein Toh Kabhi Khatam Nahi Hogi.” Kitni cheezein hogi abhi tumhari jo bas aadhi adhoori padi hai, kahi kisi kone mein, bas intezaar kar rahi hai ki tum usse yaad karo aur firse uss par kaam karna shuru karo. Chalo shuruwat kar bhi liya agar toh usse chalte rehne de paaate ho? Ki achanak kuch nayi cheez ya aalas ya fir kisi aur ka sunkar vo cheez band kar dete ho. Ki ha, sab ne band kiya hai toh sahi hi hoge, jaise dusre bataege abhi humein kya sahi aur galat hai hamare liye.  Humne na, ek aadat daal di, apne mann ka chorhkar sab ke mann ka karne ki, kyuki sab ke saath rehna hai na, alag jaake kahi akele na padh jaaye. Aur logon ke beech jo akele ho rahe hai, uska kya? Kyu ki bey mann ho raha hai na jo bhi ho raha hai, usse accha mann ki karlo, sukoon toh usme hi milega na.  Aadat hamesha buri nai hoti, kabhi yehi hai jo hamesha hum bana kar rakhti hai, fir chaahe vo gungunana ho, ya tasveerin khichna ho ya fir bas, kitaabei...

  “We must accept finite disappointment, but never lose infinite hope.” Oh, it is so tough to walk away from the fine line of turning hope into delusion. The most commonly used phrase in the present day is “delulu is the solulu” but, is it? Well, it is not, but can lead to a high level of confidence and hope. Well, the question is how? Try to remember the incident when you thought you could ace the exam by studying all night over one run through with the syllabus, it motivated you to study and you did which led to acing the test. Then, when you thought you could confidently ask your crush out by writing a letter with your beautiful handwriting and it will make the person fall for you and it does work out but damn, only for a moment. And, when you confidently tell your teacher she is wrong, thinking she will appreciate you in front of everyone but it does not help and leads to you making a fool of yourself, well, that is how the fine line works.  As long as you are aware of the...